Losing a spouse is often described as one of the hardest and most life-altering experiences a person can go through. Beyond the loss of companionship, the death of a life partner can change the way each day feels, as familiar routines and habits are disrupted. Sometimes, there’s even a shift in the household’s financial stability. Add to all these the heavy responsibility of child-rearing, and the stress can feel overwhelmingly intense.
So, what are some practical ways you can support someone with children who is mourning the passing of their spouse? The following tips may help.
Listen actively
One of the best ways to process loss is to talk about it. You can offer great emotional support simply by listening. As you allow them to express their feelings, do so without judgement and avoid offering advice unless asked. Since grief can last longer than expected, be sure to check in with them regularly, even after the funeral services in Singapore. That said, it’s important to respect their boundaries. If they need time to process the grief alone, give them the space they need, but let them know you are always there for them.
Encourage memory sharing
Similarly, encouraging a grieving person to celebrate their partner’s memory with their children can be a meaningful way to support their healing. Sharing conversations about a loved one who is no longer physically present helps the family stay emotionally connected and reminds them that it’s okay to grieve together. Looking through old photos or cooking their loved one’s favourite dish can bring comfort while keeping beautiful memories alive in their hearts.
Support daily routines
With so much on their hands—and minds—it can really help to lighten their load by taking care of some daily chores. For example, you could offer to babysit the kids for a few hours, pick them up from school, or do the grocery shopping for the family. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture; small acts can make a difference.
Plan activities together
Isolation is a common emotion among those who are grieving, especially for someone juggling their own loss and their children’s needs. Reaching out with simple plans that include the children can help restore a sense of normalcy to their days. They may not seem special, but things like a picnic in the park, a trip to a nearby playground, or a movie outing can offer moments of relief and joy during a difficult time.
While the loss is never easy, involving the children in simple aspects of funeral planning can sometimes offer them a sense of inclusion and help them process the goodbye in a meaningful way.
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